I read something yesterday that probably changed my life.
Striving for balance will derail your plans for greatness.
~Danielle LaPorte, The Fire Starter Sessions
Balance is a myth.
Let me tell you what that means to me.
I’m a working mom. Allow me to clarify (I know all moms work). I am a full-time, out-of-the-home, working mom. Meaning, I have two jobs: family and my 9 to 5. I am constantly running, and run down.
Wanna’ know what runs me down? (And trust me that I didn’t know it until yesterday…)
Trying to achieve this mythical balance! Or actually, never achieving this mythical balance because I have shit I want to do. Trying to achieve balance makes me unbalanced, because IT’S. NOT. ME.
I have dreams, people! Huge ones that keep me awake at night. Here are my dreams:
These dreams are not the kind of dreams that come from balance!
My heroes were never June Cleaver or other quiet ‘don’t rock the boat’ types.
My heroes are Oprah Winfrey, Stephen King, Hillary Clinton, and Michelle Obama. Do you think these people have balance? Hell no.
Some people dream of a quiet life. Balance is their thing. I get it. But I don’t want what they want. I want what I want. And I want passion. I want to burn. I want to be me and just explode my passion into the Universe.
I get it now. BALANCE IS NOT MY GIG. I release myself of the guilt associated with it. I’m going to be me. Kids, mommy isn’t going to be that perfect mom (also a mythical creature) who tends to your every need, makes dinner, cleans the house, works full-time without you ever even noticing, and secretly fits in her “hobbies” so they don’t impose upon you. Oh no babies, your mommy is going to be a bit of a mess sometimes. And so is this house. And we’re going to have sandwich night on my night to cook. And sure, you can lay in my lap and watch Finding Nemo again…while I write. It won’t be balanced, but it will be REAL, and I won’t be silently martyring myself for all the things I hold myself back on. So we’ll be happy up in this house!
Because from now on, I’m pursuing PASSION. Not balance.
If consensus is overrated, I think balance is, too.
I have no interest in living a balanced life.
I want a life of adventure.
~Chris Guillebeau, The Art of Non-Conformity
Yes! I’m free!
Ask yourself, WHAT DO YOU REALLY WANT? Tell me. I want to hear it. Declare it, right now. (And if you genuinely want balance for yourself, say it! We need all kinds in this world.)